Why are we like this? & Why aren't they?

Welcome.

You’ve stumbled upon this site, time for your delight!

I’m a researcher of human experience, with a particular love (okay — maybe a fetish) for collecting stories. The personal kind. Think The Hite Report, but make it modern. When we gather people’s stories, we keep the flavor. The nuance. A census form doesn’t tell you much about who someone is. There’s no meaning in just checking a box for race or sex without context. Context is culture. Context is where epistemic standpoint lives — the lived perspective of the person experiencing.

This site is both a home for my therapeutic work and a space for live commentary and questions like: Why are we like this? And why aren’t they?

The world keeps being described as in “unprecedented times.” Maybe that’s just because we’re finally noticing the nakedness. Like Adam realizing his nudity in the garden, perhaps we, too, are waking up to our collective exposure — the injustices, the contradictions, the systemic failures. Perhaps we have bitten - taken several, dosing bites of - multitudes of injustices. And as they say: a single tragedy breaks the heart, but a million? It becomes a statistic.

Scale that up: tragic, unjust moments multiply. Tea is being spilled, the kikis are happening, everywhere, all at once. And in the clerb, we’re all at jeopardy of shit falling apart.

So here’s my contribution. My two cents. My offering:

1. Work with me. Let’s use play as a revolutionary tool. Change yourself and become a contagion for change in the world. Virginia Satir said that if you want to change the world, you start with the family unit. I want to expand that. What if our friends, our creative partners, our community networks are family? What if we practiced family therapy with the people we love and work with? Let it be as nuanced as how we define our relationship dynamics. Let’s learn how to take our play and pleasure seriously, together.

2. Be exactly who you are. That’s how we build real strength in community — not by being ticky-tacky copies of one another, but by quilting and weaving something whole out of our differences. Warp and weft. You can’t weave a blanket by pulling all the threads in the same direction.

Keep an eye out for my hot-takes on humankind, creative offerings, and challenges to the cycles we get stuck in — person to person, land to land. See yourself as art (tools). Explore what you mean, here, now.

This is revolutionary therapeutic healing through storytelling.

Let’s play with meaning and envision better stories.